Why It’s OK to Be Naïve

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Today’s guest post is by writer Nick Thacker.


Many “normal people” ultimately fail to achieve what they set out to achieve. They’ll struggle for years subsisting on a 9-5 dead-end job, keeping that unfinished manuscript in a drawer—socking away 10% of their income until their blissful-yet-underwhelming retirement. It’s not very encouraging, is it?

Let me tell you what is encouraging, though: Most of the people who are “successful,” either in your eyes or their own, are just like you—“normal” people.

They’re not geniuses, ninjas, or savants. Some get lucky; some have the right connections.

When I wrote my book, I wasn’t focused on sales, or even on crafting the next Great American Novel. Instead, I said to myself, “I’ll bet I can write something that’s at least as good as the stuff I read.”

If I had done my research first—uncovering what it would take to “break in” to book publishing, I would have quit before I started. 

If you let the fear of the unknown (“could I make it in this world?”) stop you from even starting, you won’t start.

Instead, choose to be naïve.

Focus on a personal, fulfilling goal of shipping your dreams (in Seth Godin’s words).

“Successful” people often have one thing in common: They refuse to maintain the status quo, adhere to the world’s rules, or follow the norm. 

If you will allow yourself to “be naïve” and not let the huge world of expectations get to you, opportunities will arise.

Your initial efforts probably won’t be the pinnacle of achievement—but they’re complete. That should be your goal. You’ll learn more going through the processes than you ever will in a school (and I do have a music degree, so I can speak to that!).

If you truly want to achieve personal success—in whatever area—try these “rule-breaking” rules.

  • If it’s writing a book, well—write a book or three!
  • If it’s getting an awesome author mentor, start by asking your favorite author. Yeah, they’ll probably be too busy—but then ask them for their recommendation for a good mentor!
  • If it’s a better/improved/different lifestyle, stop reading about it—go find the people who are doing it, and ask them what they did to get there.

“But what if I fail?”

If you define an achievable and responsible goal, and fail while reaching for it, you’ve most likely gotten way ahead of the competition already:

Our fear of failure leads us toward procrastination, lack of motivation, and, well, failure. But by being naïve and reaching for the most out-of-reach goals and successes we’ll at least be motivated by the fact that we’re part of the few who can say we’ve tried it.

Let’s get specific: what things are you reaching for? In what ways have you succeeded (or failed miserably)? And in what ways can you be more naïve? Leave a note in the comments.

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Turndog Millionaire

Great post, nick

I keep reading very relevant pieces at the moment, or is it just my eyes are a little more open to them at the minute? hmmm, i can’t decide. Either way, the advice always seems to be the same…

Be brave and show some balls and work hard, and hell, who knows, you may just become something great

One thing i know is great doesn’t happen to those that strive for ok too often

Matt (Turndog Millionaire)

Jnbeverett

Just the right message at the right moment.  Thank you.

Joanne Guidoccio

Excellent advice, Nick. 

Brandi M Lynch

Thanks for the boost! Sometimes we all need a little encouragement to try. It’s like the lottery; if you don’t play, you won’t win. So, I’m playing!

The big thing, I think, is to ignore the statistics. The statistics of landing an agent and then getting published really can kill the mood if you dwell on them too long.

J L Huspek

What a great post! I’m going to print it out and hang it by my computer.

Leanne Sype

“Your initial efforts probably won’t be the pinnacle of achievement—but they’re complete. That should be your goal.” This is the perfect message for me right now!  Thank you so much.  I am in the midst of learning what “prosper” really means… reaping results from my efforts (and I don’t necessarily mean financially).  Perhaps the “prosper” does not always come after the effort, but instead comes during the process of “doing”… of completing the process. 
Thanks for the perspective!

Amanda Rooker

Thanks for the inspiration, Nick – glad to have discovered your writing via the inestimable curator Jane Friedman. Particularly appreciated the idea to approach the one actually living your goals as a mentor (instead of looking at them starry-eyed from afar) – think I’ll go do that right now!

Patti Mallett

Thanks for the encouragement that my plan is correct! We need that every once in awhile. (You are Bookmarked, Nick!)

Deborah Lucas

Nick,
You really hit the nail on the head for me. I’m always telling people that I’m just crazy enough or naive enough to believe I can do things other people say they wouldn’t even consider trying. It works for me. I wish more people would try it.

Thanks for the tip on finding a mentor. I’ll try that too. A writer friend tells me “Don’t try–do.” I guess we get our modern philosophers from the movies, buy hey, it works for me.

shirleyhs

Yes! I’ve been taking imperfect action all my life. It’s led me into many adventures in career and life. I’ve lived in Haiti and the Ivory Coast, read and taught the books I have loved, been the president of a college, a foundation executive, and now I am finally writing a book. All along, I’ve been a “babe in the woods.” And that, along with a little help from my friends, and many blessings from God, has helped me live my dreams. May you continue doing the same and sharing the secrets. It helps a lot if you are willing to be laughed at once in a while and can laugh at yourself.

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