Category Archives: Love

What Causes Heartbreak (#3)

I was informed once that I couldn't properly understand the movie Swingers because I'm not a man. For those who haven't seen Swingers, it's set in Los Angeles, and follows the lives of young, out-of-work ...

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What Causes Heartbreak (#2)

My high school sweetheart ended up attending the same college as I did. We both knew it was a bad idea (we had widely different interests), but ah, young love, right? It didn't take long before he transferred to a different school … overseas. We knew it was over once he left the States, though we still ...

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What Causes Heartbreak (#1)

In middle school, I had a best friend who my mother deemed a bad influence. Twenty years later, I take this to mean that I behaved more like an immature teenage brat while cohorting with this friend. My mom ...

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The Night I Was Sent to Hell

In early 2007 I had the following dream: I went to Hell—without a fight. I walked down a long and dark corridor with many others, with my (then) husband next to me. Suddenly the corridor opened up onto a square of a city. It looked like Naples—crowded, noisy, dirty. A large university was on the square, and I ...

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The Day of My Divorce

When my husband and I divorced, we went the DIY route. He ordered legal templates from a website, filled in the blanks, and sent it to the court. A date was set, and we agreed to meet at the courthouse for our appointment ...

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Nothing Lasts Forever

In the same way countries have anthems, my life has an anthem. I discovered it my junior year at the Indiana Academy, where I lived 4 hours ...

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Do Pain and Struggle Constitute a Fundamental Part of Love?

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Belated Recognition of the Importance of Rituals

"People put so much effort into starting a relationship and so little effort into ending one." —Marina Abramovic I was deeply touched by a story about Marina Abramovic in this issue of The New Yorker. She and ...

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The Beauty and Tragedy of Endings

"There is no end. There is no beginning. There is only the infinite passion of life." (Fellini) I'm a die-hard fan of Lost, and unless you've been living in a cave, you probably know the show's finale is next weekend. I've seen ...

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Is It Better to Be Loved or Understood?

My recent post on romance inspired beautiful comments, both on this blog and on my Facebook page. One of my favorite observations came from Beth Leslie: ...

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